Will I Be Single Forever?
Remember during COVID when toilet paper had to be rationed because the hoarders were stocking up as if the apocalypse was upon us? Can’t blame people for knowing what they like, but it came at a cost (literally). Somebody somewhere was making a hefty profit as a TP reseller. Or they just really needed a lifetime supply of toilet to give them peace of mind…..
I was in a Trader Joe’s in Virginia on a trip to visit my brother when the news of the shutdown came. A sweet older lady was standing by me as all of us shoppers frantically contemplated what items we would need to hold us over (if this was, in fact, the end of civilization).
“Are we overreacting?” She jokingly asked. I can’t recall what I said in response, but a lesson I’ve learned since that wild time, is that the fear of the unknown can drive people to think, say and do, well, wild things (like sanitizing your packages….ooooooof).
So many single women are out here living in fear from confusion. They don’t know how or why to trust God with their desires because they don’t know if marriage is God’s will for them. It can be incredibly difficult to keep fighting for something that you have prayed into for so long. It can start to feel repetitious and pointless, boring even. Nothing seems to be changing and you don’t want to disappoint God with half hearted prayers.
You might have a thousand reasons right now to give up on this desire. But God is calling you to persevere. This is the only opportunity you will have this side of heaven to partner with God in faith.
And so I tell you, keep on asking, and you will receive what you ask for. Keep on seeking, and you will find. Keep on knocking, and the door will be opened to you. Luke 11:9-13
But what about surrender? I hear this one a lot. There is a common misconception about biblical surrender. It doesn’t mean you give up, it means you give God permission to work in you; believing that He will do what only He can in His time, His way.
I have days where faith feels easy, I’m fired up, the right words seem to roll off my tongue, but I also have days where I can’t seem to articulate anything. It’s in those moments where faith is a choice. The feelings aren’t there. It’s an act of the will. And even when the help my unbelief moments seem more numerous than the passionate prayers, desperate faith is still faith. You don’t have to feel it to live it out. Imagine if Jesus let his feelings keep Him from the cross! He chose to trust His Father. And He invites us to do the same.
It’s okay to have questions, but don’t you dare quit on the God who has never and will never give up on you.
On the days the knock is loud or on the days where it’s light, He hears you.
desperate faith is still faith
I want to share with you three ways to fight fear and stay in faith in singleness↴
1. Ask God to remind you that He is with you.
I do this often. I recently had a day where I was feeling incredibly defeated. I couldn’t seem to stop the tears. I went outside to water my plants and the most beautiful monarch butterfly hovered around me. I knew, without a doubt, that it was sent from God. I love how He uses nature to speak to us. Immediately my heart lightened. It was exactly what I needed when I needed it. He will do the same for you. Ask Him. Call to me and I will answer you, and will tell you great and hidden things that you have not known. Jeremiah 33:3
2. Speak life over yourself and your desire. There is power in our words and what we come into agreement with. It’s tempting to even jokingly talk about your love life in a derogatory way. Resist the temptation to sow doubt and unbelief with your words. The tongue has the power of life and death, and those who love it will eat its fruit. Prov. 18:21
3. Thankfulness. Complaining pulls us out of alignment with something scripture says is God’s will for us. And that is growing in thankfulness. This is absolutely essential to keeping your heart soft, your mind renewed and staying faith filled.
In everything give thanks; for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus for you. 1 Thessalonians 5:18
Now is not the hour to be tossed in the boat of fear and unbelief. Your faith, your prayers and your persistence
matter. Seek His heart, stay in faith, and watch what He will do.
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